The Strongest Reasons Why many Relationships fail

COMMUNICATION IS THE BUILDING BLOCK OF ANY LASTING RELATIONSHIP

Communication is a simple word yet very vital in the lives of every living thing.

A school of taught defined communication as an exchange and flow of information and ideas from one person to another; it involves a sender transmitting an idea, information, or feeling to a receiver.

In maintaining a healthy relationship between a man and a woman, effective communication is very vital.

Many relationships fail today because there is a break down of effective communication. Effective communication occurs only if the receiver understands the exact information or idea that the sender intended to transmit but anything short of this will usuallylead to disaster In the relationship.

Many courtships and marriages have broken down today because each party assumes the other person to be a mind reader or expects the other party to understand issues in a magical manner.

Have you wondered why some divorcées usually use words like "irreconcilable difference". But the truth of the matter is that it was lack of effective communication that led to the break up.

In any serious affair or marriage, two different people must merge to understand each other and this can only be done by having a no holds bar communication with each other on every aspect from the craziest issue to the most important.

Many people tend to condole behavioral patterns they are not happy with and by so doing building up resentment over the years just to explode when the other partner least expects it and by then it may be too late for both parties to repair the damage.

No matter what the case may be, don’t hold back your feelings and learn to communicate with the other party in a very serious manner and not with mediocrity hence you just might be taking for granted.

It may be the way you want to be touched or the way you want your egg fried. It may be just anything that may sound silly or unimportant but please discuss this and you will be happy at the outcome.

Nothing is too sacred to discuss...

-If you want mouth action from your spouse,discuss it
-If you dont like the way he or she snores,discuss it.
-If you hate his or hygiene,discuss it
-If he or she is too boring in bed,discuss it.
-If you feel you are not getting enough attention please discuss it and don't ever stomach or condole things that gets you mad cos a day will come when it will burst out of you and you tend to overreact so discuss it in a timely,humbly,and romantic manner and be at peace

If we all learn to communicate effectively with our partners , I bet the rate of break ups will be greatly reduced.

Divorce and broken relationship is the greatest delight of the devil because this is the only institution GOD takes so much pride in because he instituted it right from the beginning of the world so Lets learn to communicate any and every issue that bothers us with our partners and you will remain happy and also know where you are heading in your relationship in a timely manner.

Hope this helps.

Bitter Truth For Guys Trying To Maintain Distant Relationships

Have you ever dipped your fingers in a pot of Melon Soup (Egusi) without heating or getting it refrigerated?  The next day, be sure that your soup will become sour!!! This is possibly what could become of your relationship and emotional feelings when 'distance' is involved, especially, when this 'distance' is not handled with enough maturity!

I personally think it is basically foolish trying to maintain distant relationships when the two persons involve do no wish to get married or are not ready to settle down as husband and wife within the shortest possible time! If your girlfriend lives in Uyo and you live in Akure, the burden and regular emotional pains that distant relationships bring could be better tamed if both of you would be tying the knot as soon as possible. On the other hand, in a situation where both of you are still confused on the future of the relationship or there are no serious plans for marriage on ground, you could both be deceiving yourselves while living in constant emotional torture!!!

'Love', no matter how fake it is, grows when the persons that are involved are physically present with each other to ignite the ingredients of romance in the relationship. When romance leaves through the door in a relationship, affection, care and attention are definitely going to leave through the windows! 'Love' would become a mirage and relationship would be recklessly abandoned and forgotten!

As partners, doing things together such as going to the cinema, shopping, strolling and holding hands in the park, watching movies together at home, cracking jokes and seeing the smiles on the faces of each other go a long way in boosting romance . On the contrary, these things are not present in distant affairs! Relationship needs physical body contact, if truth be told. That's the easiest way to reduce unnecessary tension, jealousy, accusations and counter-accusations, constant cheating and lying and all other funny things that go along with distant affairs!!!

In this world that we live in, where materialism and sex are fast becoming the foundations of most relationships, you should sincerely think about it...whether the one you romantically call 'your love' is fervently sincere with you too . I mean, phone calls and chats are just so boring and useless without physical contact!!!

I am not a misogynist and has never been but experiences and observations have clearly shown that ladies cheat more in distant relationships because they are more prone to romantic pressures from other men; some may be carried away by materialism and the pressure to have sex!!! This explains why you may be in Warri, happy that you have a loving girlfriend that lives in Lagos, not knowing that one sharp banker with slick tongue and posh car is banging her in and out! In no time, her care and attention for you would decrease; she would call and text lesser and discussions on phone would become so boring! You should know it is almost coming to an end! . If you don't have any plans of getting married soonest, don't waste your time on distant affairs! I would even suggest you use the money you spend on regular, boring and long phone calls on online betting because you cold be wasting your resources on a girl someone else is 'eating'

Distant relationship is full of pains, lies, emotional trauma, unnecessary troubles, jealousy and fear all occassioned by lack of physical presence!